I wasn’t planning on writing today. It’s my birthday after all! Why go out of my way to make work for myself on my birthday? But then an idea for a post struck and, when a new idea is unfolding, writing isn’t work. It’s fun! So with that in mind, you know I love Doctor Who. And I thought, what with it being my birthday and all, it might be kind of fun to reflect a little on what leads me to love certain characters or fictional worlds. Out of all the stories – novels, comics, movies, or TV shows – I’ve consumed in my life, what makes one stay with me? What makes me want to return to that world and visit those characters again and again and again? What captures my heart and mind?

The Doctor and Donna meet Agatha Christie (!!!) in “The Unicorn and the Wasp.” / Photo Credit – Doctor Who
This idea was born from part of my Pre-Birthday celebration. For clarification, birthdays are not something I’m a fan of. I prefer to follow Grandma’s method of birthevents where the birthday is stretched out as long as possible. Taking a cue from Dad then, any birthday should feature no less than a Pre-Birthday, Birthday, and Post-Birthday for appropriate levels of celebration and time as the center of attention :). It’s three days minimum for your birthday people! Anyway, my pre-birthday festivities included watching a couple of episodes of Doctor Who, specifically “The Doctor’s Daughter” (S4E6) and “The Unicorn and the Wasp” (S4E7). (I watched the second episode with Mom and Kalie which always makes it more fun too!) As I let the stirring emotional heart of “The Doctor’s Daughter” wash over me and reveled in the whimsical fun of “The Unicorn and the Wasp,” I kept thinking about how much I adore the Doctor as a character. And I realized how easy it is to answer the above questions with the Doctor.
(A quick note on pronoun use – as Time Lords’ gender can vary with regenerations, I’ll use masculine pronouns when speaking of the Doctor’s male regenerations, feminine pronouns when speaking of the Doctor’s female regeneration, and a gender neutral “they/them/their” when speaking of the Doctor as a character in general.)

The Thirteenth Doctor checks some readings on her sonic screwdriver. And yes, before you ask, I DO have one. I got it on sale at a toy store after last Christmas! It makes the sounds and everything! You can ask Kalie, it’s awesome and she in no way finds it annoying when I play with it all the time XD. / Photo Credit – Doctor Who
Two facets of the Doctor’s character come immediately to mind when I think of why I love returning to this world so often and why they’ve captured my heart and mind – joy and nonviolence. There is SO MUCH to love with the Doctor but those two are what top my list.
As a character, the Doctor is part of an alien race known as Time Lords. This means the Doctor is essentially immortal (having the ability to regenerate into a new body when they’ve suffered a mortal injury or when their body is approaching death from old age) and has the technology to travel anywhere in space and time using a ship called the TARDIS (“Time And Relative Dimension In Space”). When the Doctor entered her thirteenth regeneration, she was at least 2.000 years old. Given 2,000+ years of life and the potential to travel anywhere in space and time, one ends up seeing A LOT. Despite all the darkness and danger the Doctor has encountered in their travels, their first reaction to anything new is one of wonder, excitement, and joy. With every new world, new race, new species, new piece of technology, or new crazy-looking-monster-thing the Doctor encounters, their first reaction is to say how brilliant and/or beautiful it is…no matter how overtly threatening it may appear to be. In this way, Doctor Who is a constant celebration and affirmation of the beauty of life.

The Eleventh Doctor seeks to save the lives of 4,000 people trapped on a doomed ship to pull of a Christmas miracle! / Photo Credit – Doctor Who
I can’t help but share that sense of joyous excitement when I watch this show. It’s contagious! It’s impossible for me to watch the Doctor smile at, delight in, and compliment the never-ending variety in creation without it making me see the world around me in a brighter light too. No matter the mood I’m in or the day I may be having, the Doctor’s smile will eventually spread to my face too :). I just feel better when I watch this show. There is so much sadness and anger and division and hate and willful/proud ignorance in our world. It can feel like it’s crushing down on me, the burden near impossible to lift at times. Yet every time I watch Doctor Who, I feel happier and inspired by the show’s end. Everything seems possible. That’s such a gift!
This joy of creation manifests in the Doctor’s commitment to protect all of its glorious diversity through nonviolent means. The Doctor doesn’t carry any weapons. The TARDIS is equipped with a universal translation matrix so it’s literally designed to aid its passengers in understanding and communication. While it’s virtually indestructible, this feature’s for protection not combat as it has no lasers, missiles, or offensive capabilities of any kind. In a beautiful bit of narrative symbolism too, a Time Lord’s biology means they have two hearts, a great way to illustrate the Doctor’s capacity for love.

Donna checks to see if Jenny has two hearts like a natural-born Time Lord, only to find that she does! / Photo Credit – Doctor Who
In “The Doctor’s Daughter,” he tells his (created-near-instantly-from-a-stolen-bit-of-tissue) daughter Jenny, “Listen to me. The killing…after a while, it infects you. And once it does, you’re never rid of it.” She protests, “But we don’t have a choice.” The Doctor assures her with equal parts compassion and seriousness, “We always have a choice.” In the same episode, Donna tells Jenny what she’s learned of her father in their travels together. Donna says, “He saves planets, rescues civilizations, defeats terrible creatures. And runs a lot. Seriously, there’s an outrageous amount of running involved.” But all that saving, rescuing, defeating, and running is done without a weapon in his hand or malice in his heart. The Doctor saves the day by being the smartest person in the room and utilizing compassion, witty wordplay, and the power of true communion.
Looking back at my life, this idea of the nonviolent hero is something I’ve always been drawn too. As a child, the fictional character that left the largest mark on my developing ethical sense was MacGyver. I loved that show! And what was most remarkable to me, especially in the entertainment culture of the late ‘80s and early ‘90s, was MacGyver’s refusal to use guns or to kill. I remember, without being able to articulate the why in any sort of meaningful way, how deeply this resonated. I remember looking at my toy guns differently after watching MacGyver had become a regular part of my life and putting them aside, more often than not, preferring to be a hero who wasn’t carrying one. This is probably part of what has always drawn me to Spider-Man (a superhero who uses webbing and wit over guns or swords) and the Ghostbusters (who trapped and stored the entities they fought, never hurting (to our knowledge) or destroying them).

While the Doctor doesn’t use weapons, he certainly has all manner of wonderful toys to employ to save the day. His 3-D glasses are always a favorite of mine :). / Photo Credit – Doctor Who
This is absolutely why Luke Skywalker throwing away his lightsaber in Return Of The Jedi is my all-time favorite scene in all of Star Wars and one of many reasons Return Of The Jedi is my all-time favorite Star Wars movie (I write more about all that here). As I’ve often said, this subversion of the Myth of Redemptive Violence is also one of the reasons I love The Unbeatable Squirrel Girl as much as I do too (and I write more about that here).
The Doctor personifies this ethic so well, in word and deed. Doctor Who is this unbelievably imaginative show – a show with action, adventure, intrigue, and plot twists unlike any I’ve ever seen before – built on a bedrock of nonviolence and care for all life. What may be my favorite example of this on Doctor Who comes in a moving speech the Doctor delivers in “The Zygon Inversion” (S9E8). As humans and Zygon alike consider setting off a weapon with genocidal consequences for the other species, the Doctor speaks about the horror of war and the power of forgiveness in a way only he can:
Ahh! How incredible is that?!!? I had tears in my eyes the first time I watched this episode and every viewing leaves me with chills. I’m drawn to the Doctor’s world because it’s one of wild imagination – taking me to epic historical moments I’ve read about and alien worlds in far-flung futures I’d never be able to imagine. But the Doctor as a character captures my heart and mind because of the message they embody in each episode, a message we would all do well to try and embody a little more ourselves.
So as I begin my thirty-seventh year around the sun, that’s what I hope to do. I hope I can be a little more like the Doctor – a shining example of the type of hero I’ve been drawn too all my life, a hero who I’ve seen glimpses of in everyone from MacGyver to Luke Skywalker. And really, isn’t that the point of heroes anyway? We’re supposed to want to be like them! They’re supposed to inspire us! They’re supposed to teach us how to be better and what true victory really looks like.

A truly great hero teaches us to see things differently when we look at the world too. / Photo Credit – Doctor Who
The Doctor does this, episode in and episode out with methods and a message I support. That’s something that’s all too rare in the fiction I consume too, the hero who I can consistently cheer on without wading through any sense of cognitive dissonance or moral ambiguity (Squirrel Girl, of course, being another rare example). I don’t just like what the Doctor does, but rather, they are beliefs I share and ones I try to model in my own life too, with varying degrees of success. As she says, officiating the wedding of Yaz’s grandmother Umbreen in “Demons of the Punjab” (S11E6), “Something I believe in my faith, love, in all its forms, is the most powerful weapon we have. Because love is a form of hope, and like hope, love abides in the face of everything.” Amen Doctor, amen.
Before I end, I want to take a moment to offer a birthday shout-out to my blogging birthday buddy Shannanigans over at Reads & Reels! In addition to running a fantastic blog and book promoting business she also happens to have been born on the exact same day I was so that makes her extra cool. Also, it means she’s the only person I know I can accurately quote this Beatles song to…(please imagine the appropriate guitar riff here) “They say it’s your birthday / Well it’s my birthday too, yeah / They say it’s your birthday / We’re gonna have a good time / I’m glad it’s your birthday / Happy Birthday to you!” Ha! I love it.
Whelp, with this reflecting now done, I’m off to celebrate the “literal birthday” part of my birthevent. This will include a little more time with Doctor Who and lots of time with loved ones. I hope your day’s a great one too and, if you need an excuse to relax, goof off, and practice some self-care and indulge yourself, feel free to use my birthday! I’m happy to help provide you a reason to treat yourself which is great for you AND it’s a gift for me as I’ve always kind of thought my birthday should be an international holiday anyway and you taking today off just nudges me closer to that goal ;).

“All you need is love / Love is all you need” is another great Beatles tune to think of on the ol’ birthday AND it’s a powerful truth the Doctor always does her best to remind us of. / Photo Credit – Doctor Who
YES! This is why I love the Doctor, too! It’s that the Doctor faces everything with joy and excitement and curiosity. Instead of meeting new things with fear or trying to destroy things that are new/weird/potentially a threat because new and/weird, the Doctor embraces them and tries to understand them. It’s a beautiful show and a beautiful example!
And, of course, happy birthday! I will definitely go treat myself to celebrate this auspicious event. Second dessert awaits!
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Thank you Krysta :). And YAY!!!! I’m glad you shared in my celebration and I think second dessert was a brilliant way to go about doing it. Huzzah! Good times were had by all!
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Happy Birthday Michael! Glad you took the time to write a post, because you then gave us readers a gift of your words!
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Aww, thank you Nancy! And thank you for the smile your words brought to me :).
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Happy birthday Michael. You mention so many likeable traits of the Doctor I enjoy. One of my favourites is the wonder in which the Doctor witnesses something new – an almost childlike joy in beholding an entity, even if it’s ugly, brutal and a menace, the Doctor often sees a beauty within it. I always thought David Tennant was good at capturing this moment of pure joy and wonder (a good contrast to his sometimes grumpy and gloomy moods), and lately Jodie Whittaker’s Doctor is perfect at expressing joy in all things new. I can’t wait for the upcoming season, it’s been too long!
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YES! That’s just it! The sense of “childlike joy in beholding an entity” is the perfect way to put it. That’s exactly what it feels like. I think the way David Tennant expressed that joy is what made me love him so much. Because you’re right, there’s also a lot of sadness and gloom to his Doctor too. And the way Jodie Whittaker presents that joy is part of why I fell in love with her take on the Doctor so quickly. It just makes me feel better and brighter to get lost in the Doctor’s joy :).
I’m counting the days to the new season too. Aaaaahh! I’m so excited! I’ve actually started reading some of the Doctor Who novels to help get my Doctor fix as I wait patiently. I’ve really enjoyed some of them! They’re a lot of fun.
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Hi Michael,
Have a happy birthday over as many days as you like. Dr. Who does really embody some great storytelling. I haven’t caught up with the last two doctors, but they have taken on some new different directions.
Thanks,
Gary
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Thanks Gary!
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Belated Birthday wishes!
You nailed the reason why I have actively promoted the Doctor to my own child as a hero to look up to and emulate. They are the Macgyver of the Universes – and they use their intellect to get out of situations not their fists……
Loved this post!
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Aww, thank you! And I think it’s amazing to intentionally share the Doctor with your child. There are so many heroes out there – from movies to TV shows to video games to novels to comic books and on and on – and their intellect and heart(s) are certainly something we need more of in our world. This comment made me so happy. Yay!
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